Purchase supplies: Depending on how adventurous you are, you can either hit the cosmetics counter at a local department store for advice or check out the skin products at your local discount store or pharmacy. If money is no object, get the products and the advice from the cosmetics counter.
Take a look at her makeup to see which brands she uses. You are probably safe to buy your supplies in the same brand, or just take her along to buy them. This is not a surprise mission.
- Facial Cleaner
- Facial Scrub
- Clay Mask
- Towels and washcloths
- Soft music and something to play it on.
Step #1: Clean the kitchen/dining room if needed. You will need a chair where she can lean back and you can stand behind her, and you’ll need a table.
Step #2: Boil some herbs on the stove along with some essential oil or light a scented candle.
Step #3: Ambiance. Set up and test your music source. The volume should be soft but clearly audible.
Step #4: Have her wear a bathrobe or something else she can easily take off- she’ll have to shower in the middle of the facial process. Wrapping in a towel works well.
Step #5: Drape the chair with a large towel for comfort (and spills) and have her be seated.
Step #6: Follow the cleanser directions- usually you wipe them on, then rinse off. Have a washcloth in a bowl of warm water ready for rinsing.
Step #7: Once the cleanser is rinsed off, wring out two washcloths that have been soaking in warm water and place them on her face (she’ll need to lean back.) Place another on her neck and upper chest. Leave a room around her nostrils for breathing! After 3 minutes, remove the washcloths.
Step #8: Apply the facial scrub to her face, neck, and upper chest. Gently rub to exfoliate the skin.
Step #9: Start the shower and help her in! She needs to rinse off all the scrub.
Step #10: When she comes out of the shower, have her sit back down and apply the clay mask. Follow the directions on the mask- they usually need to stay on the skin for 5-10 minutes.
Step #11: While the mask is setting, fix a light lunch or snack for the two of you (just like in the spa!) Usually spa lunches are fruit, salad, and a light sandwich.
Step #12: It’s back to the shower! Rinse off the mask.
Step #13: When she’s seated again, apply the toner (usually with cotton balls) then the moisturizer. A gentle massage when applying the moisturizer is a nice touch.
Step #14: All done! You can eat now.
Since women are pretty picky about the products that go on their skin, this one shouldn’t be a surprise. Tell her you plan to give her a facial and let her go with you to pick out the products to use. Allow her to direct how they should be used as well. Not knowing what you are doing (but really trying to do it right) can be endearing and sweet. The effort you put in makes all the difference.
The idea here isn’t that you are a professional facialist, but that you are pampering her and spending a morning together with her. It should be fun and lighthearted. Think about it as payback for the times she’s gone to sporting events or other things she didn’t really care about with you!